Caging: Your edgy guide to pleasure and control
Cage farming: why it is so irritating
Caging sounds weird to many people because it sounds like being trapped. But in erotic circles, caging often has to do with role play and thrills. You suddenly feel like you’re in a different world because you or your partner are in a confined space. This confinement creates a tingling sensation that you might not experience during normal cuddly sex.
The idea behind caging is simple. You or your pet ends up in a cage, which is usually not very big. During this time, you feel either excitement, helplessness or simply curiosity. Some want the feeling of powerlessness, others prefer the dominant role and enjoy seeing someone in the cage.
For some, this is an innocent game with boundaries. For others, it can mean harsh dominance. There are also softer versions that are more playful. An erotic cage can tickle your senses if you get involved in the special situation. Nevertheless, you need a few basic rules to keep everything safe.
The basics: What cage farming means and how to get started
Caging is essentially a BDSM element. You keep someone in a cage or have yourself “caged”. This cage can be made of metal, wood or plastic. It often has bars through which you can look out but not get out.
When you start, clarify beforehand what exactly you want. How big should the cage be, how long should the stay last and what is allowed during this time? Caging depends on communication. You need to check whether your partner is okay with it or where their stops are.
Some people find this practice an intense thrill. They find it sexy to move around the cage or watch the person inside. Others talk about a warm feeling of security when they feel enclosed. What you ultimately make of it depends on your preferences.
A cage session can be sensual, wicked or totally loving. You can stroke, kiss or giggle teasingly while your partner is inside. But you can also be stricter if you’re more on the dominant side. A cool middle ground can be ideal to satisfy curiosity.
Safety: the be-all and end-all in cage farming
Safety is important if you are trying out caging. The cage should be stable, but not so locked that you can’t get out if necessary. It is best to build in a safeword that can be used to stop the session immediately.
Also make sure there is enough air and space. Some cages are very cramped, which is unhealthy for long periods of time. If you have to hunch over, you will quickly get muscle cramps. Therefore, caging should not last too long, at least not if you are inexperienced.
Also the question of keys: Who has the key or code? You need a plan B in case something goes wrong. Otherwise, fun can quickly turn into panic if nobody can open the cage. Communication is more important here than usual.
If you are unsure, keep the cage for a short time at first, just a few minutes. Then you will notice whether you feel mentally comfortable or whether the confinement scares you. Increase the time slowly if you feel comfortable.
Erotic caging: The mixture of tenderness and taboo
An erotic cage can be extremely sizzling because the person inside feels at the mercy of the cage. At the same time, the person outside can pass gentle touches through the bars or give teasing glances. Playing with power makes it hot, but also tender.
For example, you can sit in the cage while your partner turns you on with words or hand movements. Maybe he puts chocolate through the bars or caresses your neck. These contrasts are the attraction: You are close, but still locked up.
On the other hand, the cage owner can savor the moment because he decides when you come out. You could buy yourself a minute of freedom by obeying a certain command. This mixes role play and tingling cage play.
You decide whether it’s soft or hardcore. Some only do a little pet play, where you feel like an animal in a cage. Others prefer strict dominance, where you have to stay in a cage for hours on end. It is important to clarify boundaries beforehand.
How cage farming can be placed in everyday life
Caging doesn’t just have to happen in the big BDSM basement. You can also get small cages that are mobile, as long as your partner fits in. However, this is logistically difficult unless you have space.
Some couples agree on caging as a fixed part of their role play. About every Friday evening there’s half an hour of cage play. Then you sprinkle the whole thing with cuddling or slightly erotic play. You can set up the cage anywhere you have space.
If you have kids or roommates, you should be discreet. A cage in the living room raises questions, unless you disguise it as a pet carrier. Most people store it in the cupboard and take it out when they are undisturbed.
You can also mix caging with other BDSM elements. Perhaps your partner has a blindfold or is tied to the bed beforehand. Then move the whole thing into the cage to create variety.
Sex caging in brothels: what you need to know
Some brothels now offer caged sex in the brothel as a special service. You can find out whether the establishment has cages and whether they allow BDSM role play. There you will find professionals who will guide you.
But you should ask about hygiene and safety. The cage must be stable, clean and not rusty. A good brothel pays attention to discretion and clear agreements. If you book a session, clarify beforehand how long you want to be inside and what happens besides the cage.
The price may also be higher than normal services because caging counts as an extra. Don’t be ripped off, compare several offers or check online reviews. Feel free to mention how exactly you imagine the caging to work so that the lady or gentleman in the brothel knows what to expect.
Be aware that brothel visits are taboo for some people. Think about how far you want to go morally or relationship-wise. If you are in a relationship, this could cause trouble unless you both want the experience and are in agreement.
Caged brothel erotic: a mix of lust and professional hands
If you want to try out a brothel cage erotically, it can be a wild thrill. You’re not in your usual home, but in a location with a special ambience. This can take you out of your everyday life.
A professional dominatrix or dom can show you how cage play works erotically and safely. They know the psychology behind it and know how to push you or your partner to the limit without overwhelming you. This can be an advantage for newcomers.
However, it requires courage and trust. You’re putting yourself in someone else’s hands, literally. You have to check whether the chemistry is right and whether you can let yourself go. If you tense up, the erotic adventure will quickly turn into a tense experience.
In the end, you have to consider whether you really want this borderline experience in a brothel. Some people swear by it, others prefer to stay in private rooms. Talk about it honestly if you go there as a couple, otherwise there will be unnecessary arguments.
Tricks to make cage farming more intensive
If you already know caging and are looking for more of a kick, there are options. You could use a cage with locks so you or your partner can’t get out without a key. This increases the feeling of abandonment.
Music or silence. Sometimes it makes a big difference whether you have music playing or it’s dead quiet while you’re sitting in the cage. Silence emphasizes every rustle and every breath, music can push the mood or alienate it.
Play with light: Dim the light or use color LEDs. If you use red lighting, it can look dramatic. Blue light can come across as icy cold. You can turn your cage into a small stage.
Time limits: Set how long you stay in without seeing a clock. Then you’ll lose track of time and immerse yourself more deeply in the experience. Your partner can then intersperse distractions or tease you from time to time.
Boundaries and consensus: pay attention
Caging can be psycho-intensive. You are or your partner is caged. This situation must not happen against your will. The consent of both or all parties involved is essential.
A safeword can be super important here. It can be a word like “red” that stops everything immediately. If someone suddenly feels unwell or panics, they should shout this word. The cage must then be opened immediately.
Mental health is also important. Anyone who suffers from claustrophobia or anxiety should avoid keeping caged animals, unless they deliberately want to confront this. But that is risky. It’s better to try something harmless first and see if it leads to trauma.
Define whether you want sex in the cage or not. Sometimes there is no room for sex at all, but petting through the bars can happen. If you’re planning it more intensively, clarify whether you need condoms or other protection.
Is caging only for BDSM fans?
Not necessarily. Although caging often occurs in BDSM contexts, it can also have a playful component. You don’t have to be into hardcore domination to find excitement in caging. Some couples see it as cosplay or fun pet play.
However, it is a more intense role play. If you are rather gentle and don’t like power imbalances, cage play might not be suitable. Feel inside yourself. But maybe you like it as a daring change of pace that makes you feel trapped for a moment.
Try it soft: Treat yourselves to a temporary cage in which you sit in the cage, but your partner remains affectionate. He brings you something to drink or whispers compliments. This way, you’ll lighten the hard BDSM tone.
Cage confinement compared to other types of play
Caging is not the only BDSM element that uses restrictions. Shackles or chains are also common. But a cage has a special component: it massively limits your freedom of movement. You can’t escape, you can’t even stand normally.
In contrast to shackles, you can often move around in a cage, but within narrow limits. Paradoxically, this can feel freer because you are not tied up, just locked in. You have more space than with strict handcuffs, but you still remain trapped.
Caging can have a psychedelic effect because you can see the bars and only have limited perception of the outside world. With shackles or chains, you may be blindfolded or gagged. Ultimately, however, these are nuances. If you like BDSM, you can alternate between the two, depending on your mood.
Tips for emotional aftercare
After an intense caging session, don’t immediately run away or get annoyed. Offer reassurance and cuddles to the person who was in the cage. This is called aftercare. Ask if everything is okay, if he wants a drink or needs a blanket.
Especially if it was very intense, your partner may be emotional or feel slightly confused. Hold him or her in your arms and talk about the experience. A little humor can lighten the mood, but take it seriously if negative emotions come up.
On a physical level, muscles may be aching. A little shoulder or back massage will bring relief. If you have time, you can take a shower together to wash away the stress. This will round off the session without leaving you feeling “done, bye”.
Locking up in a cage as an exciting game with boundaries
Caging offers you a mix of wickedness, power play and sensual closeness. You can make it soft or hard, loving or strict, alone or in a group. The important thing is that everyone consciously consents and that you have a safeword.
Whether you test it in your own four walls or choose sex caging in a brothel depends on your inclination. A brothel cage sex can be erotic if you are looking for the thrill of strangers. At home you can enjoy it in peace, without time pressure and with the right decoration.
Because it is a form of BDSM, you should inform yourself, set boundaries and pay attention to safety. Then caging can be an intense pleasure experience that lingers for a long time. Try it out, stay relaxed and have respect for yourself and your partner – then it can be a highlight.
Also take a look at our article “Boundaries in BDSM – How to stay safe and happy“.
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Enjoy your caging adventure and discover how it opens new doors in your love life!
